As sailor you automatically have a credibility issue towards all woman you meet. You carry a century long history of sailors who stop at countries, have fun with the ladies and then leave again. Although Katia and me have been together for a good year, that credibility issue sticks on me – she didn’t take our relation that serious. And on top of that she wants to work, follow an education while those are not exactly my priorities. All good reasons to sail my own course I figured.
My plan was that I would cruise around the Caribbean and then sail the Pacific. Katia wants to study and work in order to buy a house and settle down, I want to sail the world and enjoy myself. A difficult combination indeed. I didn’t consider alternatives or compromises. I will go my way and she will go hers. When Katia left the boat last week, a couple of days of missing each other where enough for us to realize we made a mistake. But in those few days I sailed to Grenada and she is still in Trinidad.
Don’t fall for it
And now? The Pacific is huge and after the Pacific there are two oceans with limited stops. The Indian ocean because of the pirate risk and the Brazilian side of the South Atlantic where I already was. The Caribbean on the contrary are a vast cruising area with many interesting places like the Dominican Republic, Cuba, Haiti and more. “Whatever you do Joshua, don’t sell your boat. It is your ticket to freedom.”Countrydave, a good friend from the Cape Verdes, and I drink a beer in Grenada “I sold my house, worked for twenty years and ended without a boat, house or woman.” No Hope stays, she is my insurance, Dave is right.
Back to the Netherlands?
After 2.5 years of sailing I miss my friends and family a lot. Until now I went home two to three times a year but I cannot manage that when sailing in the Pacific. I could also sail back to the Netherlands. It sounds appealing. I can be home next summer. I will have been sailing then for three years. I could start my own enterprise, get a nice apartment and return to normality. But can I adjust to the long winters and a organized life? Moreover it is difficult for Katia to come to the Netherlands. The current immigration regulations are very strict. I have to have a year contract, a proper income and more. I would have to leave Katia to set that all up.
I don’t know any longer
Katia and I spoke a couple of days ago and she said she wants to come back to me. The boat which would take her to Sint Maarten is not ready as well. Two days ago she said she would take a boat to Grenada and come back on board of Hope. I haven’t heard from her since. I have no idea where she is at the moment. Has she left to Grenada? Has she gone to Sint Maarten and we will separate after all? And If she arrives? I would be so incredibly happy to see her again. But I have no idea what will be next.