First off, let me start by saying you are amazing. No really, you are. And with such amazingness vested in you, you deserve nothing less than living like a king, or king of kings to be more precise. A king of old might wake up in the morning, thinking, hmm what shall we do today, oh well, how about we go fishing. And let’s be honest about it, isn’t that what we all want? I don’t mean to say that we all want to go fishing, not at all. You might feel terribly bored about the idea of going fishing. But the freedom to live your day the way you want it. To feel free, to decide how you will spend the little time which has been given to you. Isn’t that the ultimate possible bliss in life?
Of course this sounds all too easy coming from someone who has been sailing the world for almost four years, travelled the majority of that time, doesn’t work too often, and does not have the heavy burden to carry of responsibilities. Because as we all know, responsibilities and money, that is lack thereof, can seriously tie one down and any suggestion otherwise coming from someone who doesn’t carry that burden comes close to being insulting.
Well perhaps things are not entirely how they seem. I did not win the lottery in fact (unfortunately), I do know the burden of responsibilities and I hope, I may share some thoughts with you which might aid you in your personal quest. Ok, let´s get on with it; responsibility, what is that anyways? I guess nothing more than the promise we made about the temporary role we will play in other people’s lives, nothing more, nothing less. Money, or the lack there of is mostly the result of financial obligations. These obligations are quite similar to responsibilities and are also promises on a temporary basis. So why is this relevant?
Results follow decisions
When I tap into my own experiences, I remember having about 900 euro on my bank account when I decided to go out and buy a yacht coming winter and sail around the world with it. As I was earning about the same amount a month, my bank account was a far cry from the 50k or so I (at the time) estimated I would need. Of course my estimate was wholly optimistic and I ended up needing a lot more. Anyways, I did buy my yacht that winter, and I did manage to get the money. By no means was this due to winning the lottery or people sending me gifts in the form of written cheques, by no means at all. I earned it myself within a matter of months. Tens of thousands of euro’s flowed into my bank account which used to be rather empty. Well, I could give you a detailed description on how that happened but, my point here is this, that money only came after I decided to get that boat. Had I not decided that, I would probably have never created the conditions to earn the money in the first place.
It is my strong belief therefore that the results one achieves in life, and I mean results in the sense as the outcome of ones actions, follow the decisions one makes. If you decide to travel to let´s say Antarctica (although I still can’t comprehend why some people decide upon such folly), you will start creating the conditions to actually travel to Antarctica. You will talk about it, read about it, meet other people who have similar plans or meet people who admire you for it and wish to consciously or unconsciously support you in your quest. And thus by deciding to go to Antarctica you have started creating the result.
How about being realistic?
This mechanism by which results in one’s life follow the decisions one makes, imply that making decisive decisions about what you want for yourself is vital to achieving results in life. However, I know all too many people who don´t really decide. What I mean by that is, and I am sure you recognize this, that people say things like: “I would really like to work as a web designer”. Or; I hope I can get the opportunity to travel one day. But also euphemisms like: “When we have enough money to spend, surely we will upgrade the garden, but we have to be realistic”. It is my opinion that in many cases the fear of failure, lies behind such statements. People express a desire rather than a decision, in order to prevent to be turned down by life as it where. Unfortunately it is exactly this lack of decision making which prevents the desire to materialize!
I am by no means a guru, a life style coach or someone with some kind of coaching degree. I studied, the most boring of all studies, for god’s sakes, law. But although I am just another guy, I did learn over the last five years while preparing for my life’s biggest voyage, sailing the world, travelling, doing as I please, and meeting amazing people while experiencing wonderful things, that every creation and experience always was the result of a decision and never of a wish. Let me give you a closing example from earlier this year as Katia and me where looking at our dwindling bank account and had broken the, in my eyes sacred not to be broken safety line of 5000 euro, with no concrete sign of resurrection.
In my weak moments I despaired and considered sailing back to the Netherlands. Anyhow; thank god we didn´t. We decided to earn money, good money that is, and go spend a year in the exotic islands of French Polynesia, Vanuatu and New Zealand. So we didn’t hope or wish for it, no we decided, with concrete figures and all, that we were doing that. We decided to work in the Caribbean, fly to Europe and earn a good deal there. And we did. I will spare you for now how exactly we did, as that at the moment is not the objective of this exercise. However the result is that now the sun is up again, the bank account is in the safe zone, even moving upwards, there are partners / sponsors and end of the month we are embarking on our Pacific voyage. I can go on about this and I probably will at some point in the future, but for now, let me just say, perhaps as a wish of optimism for 2015; live like a King. Truly. If you feel you want something in your life, anything at all, don’t wish for it, decide it.